Sex, love and rock and roll for postmenopausal goddesses

Your sex life doesn’t have to fizzle post menopause.  Sex therapists say that the key to great postmenopausal sex is finding ways to make things comfortable and keep both parties feeling empowered and connected.

Set yourself up for success:

• Explore on your own – because hormonal changes impact the way sex feels, it is important to do a little self-exploration and discover what feels good to you and what doesn’t. You will be better able to direct your lover, orgasm and feel fabulous.

• Talk – express your fears, desires and needs.

• Lubricate – lube makes everything better.

• Caress and Play – foreplay and intimate connection that doesn’t involve penetration can be mutually enjoyable and satisfying. Whether it leads to other sex acts or not is up to you. If penetration scares you, oral and manual options may be more enjoyable. 

Pain during sex, also known as dyspareunia, is the most common complaint in menopausal and postmenopausal women according to numerous studies. By experimenting with different position, sex may become more pleasurable.

Intercourse positions that women say are least painful are often the ones where the woman has control over the depth and speed of penetration.

Doggie style allows for rear-entry where there’s shallow penetration and your partner is less likely to hit your cervix.

Rock gently in the Lotus is where your partner sits legs crossed or legs extended in front and you gently sit on his crotch and wrap your legs around him.  This position gives you the freedom to rock back and forth and control the speed and depth of penetration. 

Roll over and try a spoon position where your partner cuddles closely into your back and enters you very gently.  This is usually a comfortable position for both partners and doesn’t put pressure on any joints.

Rock and roll may become your favorite!